Why I won't date hot women anymore

"As somebody with the body of a cocktail shrimp, I completely agree with Dan Rochkind."
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Heather Dockray
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When it came to dating in New York as a 20-something, entry-level social worker, I had no problem approaching the city's most beautiful women and then watching them walk away from me.

I have much in common with Dan Rochkind, the 30-something, private equity executive recently profiled in The New York Post article, "Why I won't date hot women anymore." Like Dan, I live in New York City, have a full head of hair and "realistically go for the hottest girl I can find." And also like Dan, I'm tired of always trying to date the most beautiful woman in the room.

I too spent the better part of my 30s going on up to three dates a week, courting 20-something blond models, before eventually realizing that dating the prettiest young things had its drawbacks: 90 percent of the time they don't like you back.

Beautiful women who get a fair amount of attention get full of themselves. They think: "Why should I have to date this person covered in Cheez-it crumbs?," "When will this person stop texting me Office GIFs?," and "I wonder at what point I should call the authorities."

According to new research, my ideas about sexy bikini babes are correct. A study recently conducted by freshmen in a Harvard University dorm room found that beautiful people are more likely to be involved with other beautiful people with whom they have a lot in common. Researchers were surprised to discover that beautiful women don't just like you because you have great table manners and lie to them about having Hamilton tickets.

That's why I'm now dating a "softer beauty," as Rochkind calls them. We're both just too layered and complex for these vacuous supermodels.

“From my personal experience, people who are better looking are less likely to pursue advanced degrees, or play an instrument or learn other languages,” says Benedict Beckeld, a 37-year-old Brooklyn writer with a doctorate in philosophy and "the body of an Adonis," told The New York Post.

As somebody with the body of a cocktail shrimp, I completely agree. People who are better looking are less likely to be educated and less willing to commit to longterm relationships -- according to my mother, who says that every time I get dumped and won't stop crying on the phone.

There's just something about sowing your wild oats and getting them out of your system. Will I miss the days of swiping right on every hot person on Tinder just to see if they'd like me back?

Maybe. But I don't regret my past.

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Heather Dockray

Heather was the Web Trends reporter at Mashable NYC. Prior to joining Mashable, Heather wrote regularly for UPROXX and GOOD Magazine, was published in The Daily Dot and VICE, and had her work featured in Entertainment Weekly, Jezebel, Mic, and Gawker. She loves small terrible dogs and responsible driving. Follow her on Twitter @wear_a_helmet.

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