Here's what people actually say when they block you on a dating app
Ever wonder what kinds of crazy stuff people say about matches they flag or block on dating apps?
Well, The League has a juicy internal Slack channel that’s chock full of this exact type of user feedback. They've shared a selection with Mashable, and it's frighteningly relatable.
There's the person who complained their match took “too many selfies even for me,” and the match who was flagged for being an “asshole in real life.”
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But, truly, let us spare a moment for the person who was dismissed with a simple, “Has a little rat dog, no thanks.” Harsh but fair.
So, here’s how it all works. The League, the elite dating app which matches you based on your LinkedIn info and emphasizes treating people well, allows you to flag, block, or expire any of your matches. When you choose to do this, you’re given the option to fill out a little note field explaining why.
Surprisingly, Meredith Davis, The League's Director of Communications & Partnerships, told me that most people do take this chance to say something.
After you complete the request, your text is automatically routed into a dedicated Slack channel that's monitored by their staff. Don’t stress, it’s anonymized.
Of course, some of the behavior people report is legitimately bad, and that’s taken seriously. But a big chunk of what people write is really just commentary or mild complaint.
They pay attention to it all, and, when it comes to some of the most amusing gems, Davis told me, “Our team loves reading these out loud before office all-hands meetings!" 0_0
Some of the notes people leave are harmless and totally understandable reasons why it's not a match. Like, "reminds me too much of my ex," or this situation which so many of us have found ourselves in:
Sometimes you just don't click.
"Went out with him... and no," one user wrote.
Then, there are those who behaved badly and got caught out. Take the woman who said this of her IRL meetup, "He invited two dates to the same event and didn't tell us." Not cool. And then there's this all too common occurrence.
Getting ghosted can suck, but one woman got an especially cruel version of it:
"Awesome date actually had a great time and a lot in common. He moved to SD 4 days later after telling me he didn't want to leave LA. Cool."
And then there was this guy who just doesn't seem to have very good manners.
And, of course, there's always the risk you'll get ripped off.
While it's easy to see why the above scenarios didn't sit well with people, some of the concerns people express seem more, well, petty -- if not entirely made up. For instance, the guy who recently complained, "She said it didn't matter if your brush or floss first. She's obviously crazy."
Or this person:
But sometimes a dealbreaker is a dealbreaker, and you just can't argue with it. Take this person, who recognized a bad commute when they saw one: "F the westside, two hours of traffic for 20min of dick. Ain't nobody got time for that."
And finally, there is this one-word classic:
One thing’s for sure, there really is no reason too small for giving up on someone.
RIP all those love stories that could have been written, were it not for the little rat dog or the “go big blue” that ruined it all.
Cassie Murdoch is Mashable's Culture Editor.. Before coming here, Cassie was Senior Culture Writer at Vocativ. She previously wrote for Jezebel and The Hairpin. Cassie spends most of her time thinking about and consuming cheese in all its glorious forms.
