Woman gives fierce response to sexist note claiming she's not a veteran

'I served, did you?'
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Brian Koerber
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What was meant to be a scathing note in support of the troops left on a windshield ended up just being a sexist and incorrect rant.

Anyone who has ever struggled to find an open parking space on a hot day can understand the frustration and temptation to grab a specialized spot. Especially if you need to run in for just a minute. But when Rebecca Landis Hayes decided to park in the veterans only parking spot at Coddle Creek Harris Teeter in Concord, North Carolina, on Monday, she was fully entitled to do so because she served in the United States Navy for eight years. 

However, when Hayes returned to her vehicle after leaving the store, she found a note on her windshield, shaming her for parking in the dedicated spot. 


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"This parking is for Veterans, lady. Learn to read and have some respect," the note read.


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So Hayes posted a photo of the note to Facebook, and wrote a response to the person who left it on her windshield. 

To the person who left this note on my windshield today at the Coddle Creek Harris Teeter in Concord, NC:

I know I parked in one of the Veteran Parking spaces today, it was hot. I had been in and out of my car several times already this afternoon, and I was only going to be a minute. Besides, the parking lot was full, so I just did it. It was the first time, and I won’t do it again. I’m sorry…

I’m sorry that you can’t see my eight years of service in the United Sates Navy. I’m sorry that your narrow misogynistic world view can’t conceive of the fact that there are female Veterans. I’m sorry that I have to explain myself to people like you. Mostly, I’m sorry that we didn’t get a chance to have this conversation face to face, and that you didn’t have the integrity and intestinal fortitude to identify yourself, qualities the military emphasizes.

Which leads to one question, I served, did you?


Hayes has received an outpouring of support on her Facebook post, which has since been shared over 1,500 times at the time of writing. 


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According to WCNC, Harris Teeter also reached out to Hayes an apologized that this happened at its store. 

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Brian was the Culture Editor and has been working at Mashable on the web culture desk since 2014.

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