Woman slams random ‘social experiments,' says what we’re all thinking

"You are raising all kinds of red flags and actually being mildly threatening."
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Woman slams random ‘social experiments,' says what we’re all thinking
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When you're sitting alone in a public space, the last thing you want is to become the unwitting subject of a social experiment. But, that's what happened to one Reddit user, who's penned an open letter calling out the man for harassing her despite her requests to be left alone.

Reddit user qiba posted her open letter on r/London, addressing it to "the Australian (?) guy doing a 'social experiment' in Islington by talking to random women in the park, who insulted me when I wanted to be left alone." "Screw you. I told you repeatedly I'd had a shit day. I told you exactly why. I politely asked THREE TIMES to be left alone and I have no responsibility to be charming or friendly to you when you're being rude by ignoring my politely stated wishes," wrote quiba. She wrote that her bad week and "particularly bad day" was rendered even worse by the man who made her "feel like crap" for declining to be a part of his "nice guy act". "To anyone doing 'social experiments' in London or making an effort to talk to strangers -- fine, but take a hint when someone's not interested, and don't be an arsehole," she said. "No one's obligated to play along." The social experiment in question is yet to make its way onto YouTube and it's unclear what the man was attempting to achieve.

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"Fuck that guy. I hope your day, and week, improve from here," wrote one commenter. She added a note to "men in general" on the subject of approaching lone women in public spaces. "Just know that if you approach a woman who is alone in a park and has made no invitation toward you whatsoever, and then refuse her explicit requests to leave her alone, you are raising all kinds of red flags and actually being mildly threatening, however good your intentions," she said. Well said.

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Rachel Thompson
Features Editor

Rachel Thompson is the Features Editor at Mashable. Rachel's second non-fiction book The Love Fix: Reclaiming Intimacy in a Disconnected World is out now, published by Penguin Random House in Jan. 2025. The Love Fix explores why dating feels so hard right now, why we experience difficult emotions in the realm of love, and how we can change our dating culture for the better.

A leading sex and dating writer in the UK, Rachel has written for GQ, The Guardian, The Sunday Times Style, The Telegraph, Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Stylist, ELLE, The i Paper, Refinery29, and many more.

Rachel's first book Rough: How Violence Has Found Its Way Into the Bedroom And What We Can Do About It, a non-fiction investigation into sexual violence was published by Penguin Random House in 2021.

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